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Oh, Hello! I See You Now

Instead of sparking joy in many readers, my most recent blog sparked guilt. They wanted to choose to organize and clear away unwanted stuff, but the guilt was too much. They found something else to do instead. Sometimes we aren’t cognizant of who’s making choices within us. We are unconscious of how we choose what we choose to choose. However, with courage and curiosity every single one of us begins to cultivate a presence of mind—of our essential-self.  Perhaps with reluctance we begin to realize that we are in relationship with various parts of ourselves. And perhaps this relationship hasn’t been

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“Here honey, I left this for you to clean up! I love you, Mom.”

Somebody is going to have to come and clean up after me, sooner or later. Perhaps it’s after I die in my bed. Perhaps it’s after I’m shipped off to a nursing home to live out the rest of my life. I have no clue the whens and hows. I just know that sooner or later somebody will have to do what I’m ignoring, distracting and avoiding. YUCK!! My urban daughter doesn’t like the rural lifestyle. Of course, that includes sheds where things are stored that I don’t know what to do with. And, where there are sheds there’s evidence

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Who’s Not Ready, Holler I!

To get some inspiration for writing today, I opened the book, Diet Like a Guru. I wrote this book eight years ago. I was surprised to be impressed with what it had to say and how relevant it is to my life, as much as it was relevant when I wrote it. A particular chapter—You Have Already Started, got me thinking about new year resolutions and how most of us have already fallen off the wagon and quit on our resolutions. Truth is, if we aren’t ready enough to stay on track with our desire for being where we say

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Letting Go of the Belief That There Should Be a Guarantee

A while back, I read an article about His Holiness the Dalai Lama, written by Stephan Talty. Stephan describes the life of this man—how he was taken away from his family very early in his childhood, how he had to study and meditate, and live a life that he did not choose for himself. His country, Tibet, was taken over by China and he was forced to go into exile. Now 88 years old, he has been given many awards, including the Nobel Peace Prize. Stephan says about the Dalai Lama: “He thinks like a man that is guaranteed nothing.”

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Beginning to Live for Real

I’m always moved and inspired by my clients. For me it’s not just a job. It’s a lifelong journey of exploring how every single one of us lives our real lives. We can’t not be living our real lives, however, we can live in a story, or an idea of ourselves that has us believe we aren’t. Is it worth questioning? Here’s a Beautiful Example My friend Jake is 55 years old. He is an amazing human being in so many ways. Jake is one of those people that everyone loves—not only because he is lovable, but because his heart

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Let’s Stop Faking It!

New Years Resolution: Stop Being Afraid You Will Be Found Out! Here’s a great statistic: 99% of coaching clients find a lot of benefit from receiving coaching! That’s a big Wa-hooo for all of us! No One Showed Up! A couple of months ago, I shared with you the release of the Webinar: The 10 Essential Truths of Transformational Coaching. Part of the offering was a free call with me to talk about what you are wanting to build for yourself, personally and professionally. Guess what? Only one person took me up on this free offer. I find that fascinating!

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Trying to Out-Do God – Not Me! 

My dad thought he was immortal and invincible when it came to dying. I watched him struggle to stay in his body when everything was going against him. His body was shutting down, but he was determined to out-do God. It didn’t work! My friends Harry and Carol attended a memorial service some time ago. They were laughing about the fact that even though death is inevitable, there is always a shock, surprise or amazement when someone dies. “Oh My God!! He Died?” There are a lot of people that eat too much, drink too much, and do things that

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Those Gifts of Christmas That Keep On Giving

In 1968, when I was about six years old, on a wintry Christmas Eve, my father was driving my five siblings and I home from an adventure in the City of Detroit. He was a doctor at Detroit Memorial Hospital. And, to cheer up some of his patients, who would remain in the hospital over Christmas, he paraded the six of us into their rooms to sing Christmas carols. They seemed to appreciate the efforts of this version of the “Von Trapp Family.”  After the hospital tour, he took us for dinner at Joe Muers Seafood Restaurant. It was the

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The Re-Enchantment of Our Inner-Santa

At this time of year, we are celebrating the presence of miracles. We are celebrating the coming of the light. We are celebrating the potentiality for peace, an engaged presence, love, joy, harmony. We imagine the possibility. We hope for the resolution of conflict within families, cultures and countries. We want miracles! And, at the same time we resist being open to miracles! What???? Christmas—Bah-Humbug! As much as we want to believe in miracles, we instead, ignite our inner cynic—the one that says, Bah-Humbug!!! As cynical as you may consider yourself to be, you can only be cynical in relation

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Dropping Your Identity of Hope: No Strings Attached!

Recently, I was imagining what it’s like to be me, with no hope attached to what I do and don’t do. What an interesting moment. I realized the degree to which so much of who I’ve been being and what I’ve been doing has been related to hoping that the outcome would be in my favor. Having lived in hope for so long, I can tell you it hasn’t been a fun and easy ride. I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone! As many of you know already, I grew up in a large Catholic family, my dad was a doctor,

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Resonance is the Sweet Spot of Living Gracefully

What are you listening for? Where are you listening From? For those of you reading this or any of my previous offerings, I suspect that you were attracted to something that resonates with you. Something engages your curious mind. Something that engages a knowing, a familiarity, a resonance with a part of you that is looking for confirmation, looking for connection, that knows of your inner guru, or perhaps desires to experience collaboration, union, and harmony as much with another as with yourself. The intention of my offerings is to deepen the listening that occurs within you, so that you more

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Dilemmas of Being a Vulnerable Human: Safe or Sublime?

My intention for this blog is: 1. To clarify that vulnerability isn’t something to be afraid of. It is a state of being that is, essentially the threshold to growing and expanding ourselves into our fullest potential, or retreating and retracting into, what can feel like stagnating strategies. 2. To help you realize that in the midst of experiencing vulnerability, we are in a pickle, a dilemma—We want to have what we want, and at the same time we want to remain secure and safe from harm and danger—even when it’s only in our imagination. 3. To show you that

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Cultivating Private Courage – Not a Shared Experience

Even though every single being on the planet is aging, we are all having a very unique experience of the world and our reality while we age. Each of us experiences aloneness, and perhaps isolation. However, the truth is, we are each cultivating a practice of Private Courage.  There is a part of us that doesn’t experience aging at all. We feel ourselves to be eternally youthful, vibrant, energized. And then we look in the mirror, or down at our arms, and we see our bodies looking wrinkled, sagging, and just don’t see how it used to be. These moments

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Stop Trying To Like Yourself

Peace on Earth begins by listening to those parts within ourselves that we ignore, avoid and judge as unworthy of respect. Peace on Earth begins with noticing when we are lying to ourselves. No one likes to be lied to. And, yet, the truth is, we lie to ourselves more than anyone else lies to us. Isn’t that fascinating?    My client, Matt, is 46, almost 400 lbs, and unhappy at work, home and in his heart. He’s a fascinating guy, in that, he is brilliant, intellectually, and in his heart, he has the wisdom of a sage. He just

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I Want It to Be Easy

For me, self-exploration is like Gaming. Whether it’s PacMan, Mario, or the highly technical games that so many people play these days, there is an intention to get from one level to the next—up-leveling themselves over and over again.    Each level of the Game of Self-Exploration requires a level of proficiency, exploration beyond what was required in the previous level. The degree to which one is inspired, committed and disciplined, to move from one level to the next,  is the degree to which one is willing to, quite often, die to make progress. It’s fascinating!   I’m in the

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How We Choose at Our Everyday Crossroads

Whenever I’m about to share an idea with you in one of these blogs, I always ask myself, what’s the point? What is the intention of anything I write and publish? Who cares anyway?   The bottom line is that for me, the practice of self-examination and self-revelation is highly pragmatic, functional, and transformational. And, it can be really fun! If I can share my experience perhaps it will support others to be curious about who is inside all of the doings of their lives. And maybe, just maybe, it will bring some fulfillment, joy and fun to their lives.

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There’s So Much More to Being Than Meets the Eye

My friend Daisy, who worked in hospice for many years, shared with me that most people make the greatest spiritual advancement in the last few weeks of their lives. I find that fascinating! Why wait?   The last time I was sick, I had not been sick for years prior, so the discomfort of it all was pretty annoying. I wasn’t sleeping and my nose was running constantly. I was realizing that that was a good time to practice something akin to meditation, but it’s not.   When I think of meditation, I think of a practice that takes me

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Wonders Never Cease

About 25 years ago, my friend Joan came to my home to do an energy clearing. She had a lot of experience in Feng Shui and other techniques for bringing harmony and balance to people and spaces. She offered to come do a clearing in my new abode and I took her up on it! Thanks Joan!   While Joan worked with dowsing rods to uncover and clear specific energies in my home, I was enchanted and mesmerized by what I witnessed. If you’ve ever seen or played with dowsing rods, or perhaps a pendulum, you know what I’m talking

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It’s Never About the Money or Fighting My Way Out of A Paper Bag

I’ve been living in a RV travel trailer for almost 20 years. My reality hasn’t yet opened me up to living in a real home. I once got so far as to have the house design and permit completed. On the day the permit was in place, I came down with an excruciating headache that lasted for days. I took this to be a sign—too much stress!   If you visit me in my trailer, walking in the door, you are transported. The views themselves would transport you out of the perceptions and perhaps judgments that you are in an

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Do You Pray, Meditate or Quiet Your Mind? Me Either

I have a deep knowing—without a shadow of a doubt, that every single individual on the planet is working towards reclaiming and residing in, what is innate and naturally present—inner peace. Within this inherent peace resides compassion for ourselves and others. It is where one’s capacity to fully embrace joy and love is ignited.   At the same time, each of us struggles to remain in the reality we are immersed in, where our feet are planted, and our fears of safety, security and stability are well entrenched. Rarely do we find ourselves knowing inner peace. In this is an

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My Job Is To Let You Know That I Know That You Know!

One of the principles that separate transformational coaches from other coaches is that they know that their clients already know what they need to know. Huh? As transformational coaches, we trust, respect and honor our clients’ experience, wisdom and intuition. They truly know what they want; what’s in the way of having what they want; what needs to shift so that they can receive what they want; and what they need to practice to make it so. We, as transformational coaches just have to ask the right questions and listen, listen, listen for the wisdom that is inherent within each

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I Don’t Want to Be a Ghost Walking Among the Living Dead

Thank you to those of you who reached out wishing me well regarding my malaise. I know a lot about self-awakening—my own, and supporting others to self-awaken too! Mypersonal life’s mission is to experience more joy and playful delight. I want to live in theexperience of thriving. In service to my mission to thrive, I’m growing my capacity to notice myself, when I am in the doldrums or malaise, and what I need to do to move myself out of thatstate of being, and into a place at least void of the doldrums. One of my intentions for writing these columns

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The Wiggly Squiggly Truth

Here’s what I believe, if your interested… Creating is one of the most important practices in life. Each individual being is an expression of the Divine energy of LIFE. We are each unique expressions of the Intelligence behind all that is. And, I believe that, our true test in life is to be the fullest expression of our essential nature. And, finally, as part of creation we are creators ourselves—we can’t not be! Every single client of mine is subjected to at least one short lecture on the importance of creating in their lives. The majority of them respond with

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In Sickness and In Health: Illness as a Rite of Passage

My client, Martha, emailed me before our session yesterday, to say she was in the hospital. She had had an asthma attack so severe that her husband took her to the emergency room. She wondered if I’d be okay if we could do our session while she was in the hospital. A lot was coming up with her and she wanted to talk about it sooner, rather than later. Of course, I was absolutely fine with that. I had no doubt, especially in conversation with Martha, some wonderful revelations would present themselves. Sitting in the hospital, Martha experienced a lot

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The Common Denominator—Turning Life Upside Down

People often ask me how I can be so transparent, upfront and personal with my life. My answer is this: What I know to be true is that everyone of us are living through circumstances that, though may look different than mine, are actually very, very similar at the core of our experience and our being.  I share what I share about what it’s like to be me with the intention of letting people know that none of us are alone in our human existence.  Wherever you look, you’ll see people who are going through struggles that though may look

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