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For the majority of us, throughout our lifetimes, we are entrained to believe that, what we are and what we have, is not enough. We are taught to look for what we need to get, in order to be enough and have enough. Our mindset is to ongoingly worry and strategize to get what we do not have, as opposed to realizing and appreciating that we already have everything we need. Bottom line is: “I’m not enough. I don’t have enough. And, because I’m not enough and don’t have enough, I’m not safe.” In the book – A Course in

I find it fascinating, the amount of time and energy we put into educating our minds, regarding the world around us, yet dedicate so little time educating ourselves about the world within our hearts, within our souls. Each of us ongoingly meet adversity within contexts of power, health, money, safety, death, natural disasters, and more. For each of us, the way out of these adversities is through our hearts, not our minds. I know this goes against consensus reality, but where in the heck is consensus reality taking us, anyway? Whether it’s relationships, health, or money, all of us have

Instead of sparking joy in many readers, my most recent blog sparked guilt. They wanted to choose to organize and clear away unwanted stuff, but the guilt was too much. They found something else to do instead. Sometimes we aren’t cognizant of who’s making choices within us. We are unconscious of how we choose what we choose to choose. However, with courage and curiosity every single one of us begins to cultivate a presence of mind—of our essential-self.  Perhaps with reluctance we begin to realize that we are in relationship with various parts of ourselves. And perhaps this relationship hasn’t been

Somebody is going to have to come and clean up after me, sooner or later. Perhaps it’s after I die in my bed. Perhaps it’s after I’m shipped off to a nursing home to live out the rest of my life. I have no clue the whens and hows. I just know that sooner or later somebody will have to do what I’m ignoring, distracting and avoiding. YUCK!! My urban daughter doesn’t like the rural lifestyle. Of course, that includes sheds where things are stored that I don’t know what to do with. And, where there are sheds there’s evidence

To get some inspiration for writing today, I opened the book, Diet Like a Guru. I wrote this book eight years ago. I was surprised to be impressed with what it had to say and how relevant it is to my life, as much as it was relevant when I wrote it. A particular chapter—You Have Already Started, got me thinking about new year resolutions and how most of us have already fallen off the wagon and quit on our resolutions. Truth is, if we aren’t ready enough to stay on track with our desire for being where we say

A while back, I read an article about His Holiness the Dalai Lama, written by Stephan Talty. Stephan describes the life of this man—how he was taken away from his family very early in his childhood, how he had to study and meditate, and live a life that he did not choose for himself. His country, Tibet, was taken over by China and he was forced to go into exile. Now 88 years old, he has been given many awards, including the Nobel Peace Prize. Stephan says about the Dalai Lama: “He thinks like a man that is guaranteed nothing.”

I’m always moved and inspired by my clients. For me it’s not just a job. It’s a lifelong journey of exploring how every single one of us lives our real lives. We can’t not be living our real lives, however, we can live in a story, or an idea of ourselves that has us believe we aren’t. Is it worth questioning? Here’s a Beautiful Example My friend Jake is 55 years old. He is an amazing human being in so many ways. Jake is one of those people that everyone loves—not only because he is lovable, but because his heart

New Years Resolution: Stop Being Afraid You Will Be Found Out! Here’s a great statistic: 99% of coaching clients find a lot of benefit from receiving coaching! That’s a big Wa-hooo for all of us! No One Showed Up! A couple of months ago, I shared with you the release of the Webinar: The 10 Essential Truths of Transformational Coaching. Part of the offering was a free call with me to talk about what you are wanting to build for yourself, personally and professionally. Guess what? Only one person took me up on this free offer. I find that fascinating!

My dad thought he was immortal and invincible when it came to dying. I watched him struggle to stay in his body when everything was going against him. His body was shutting down, but he was determined to out-do God. It didn’t work! My friends Harry and Carol attended a memorial service some time ago. They were laughing about the fact that even though death is inevitable, there is always a shock, surprise or amazement when someone dies. “Oh My God!! He Died?” There are a lot of people that eat too much, drink too much, and do things that

In 1968, when I was about six years old, on a wintry Christmas Eve, my father was driving my five siblings and I home from an adventure in the City of Detroit. He was a doctor at Detroit Memorial Hospital. And, to cheer up some of his patients, who would remain in the hospital over Christmas, he paraded the six of us into their rooms to sing Christmas carols. They seemed to appreciate the efforts of this version of the “Von Trapp Family.”  After the hospital tour, he took us for dinner at Joe Muers Seafood Restaurant. It was the

At this time of year, we are celebrating the presence of miracles. We are celebrating the coming of the light. We are celebrating the potentiality for peace, an engaged presence, love, joy, harmony. We imagine the possibility. We hope for the resolution of conflict within families, cultures and countries. We want miracles! And, at the same time we resist being open to miracles! What???? Christmas—Bah-Humbug! As much as we want to believe in miracles, we instead, ignite our inner cynic—the one that says, Bah-Humbug!!! As cynical as you may consider yourself to be, you can only be cynical in relation

Recently, I was imagining what it’s like to be me, with no hope attached to what I do and don’t do. What an interesting moment. I realized the degree to which so much of who I’ve been being and what I’ve been doing has been related to hoping that the outcome would be in my favor. Having lived in hope for so long, I can tell you it hasn’t been a fun and easy ride. I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone! As many of you know already, I grew up in a large Catholic family, my dad was a doctor,

What are you listening for? Where are you listening From? For those of you reading this or any of my previous offerings, I suspect that you were attracted to something that resonates with you. Something engages your curious mind. Something that engages a knowing, a familiarity, a resonance with a part of you that is looking for confirmation, looking for connection, that knows of your inner guru, or perhaps desires to experience collaboration, union, and harmony as much with another as with yourself. The intention of my offerings is to deepen the listening that occurs within you, so that you more

Even though every single being on the planet is aging, we are all having a very unique experience of the world and our reality while we age. Each of us experiences aloneness, and perhaps isolation. However, the truth is, we are each cultivating a practice of Private Courage.  There is a part of us that doesn’t experience aging at all. We feel ourselves to be eternally youthful, vibrant, energized. And then we look in the mirror, or down at our arms, and we see our bodies looking wrinkled, sagging, and just don’t see how it used to be. These moments

Whenever I’m about to share an idea with you in one of these blogs, I always ask myself, what’s the point? What is the intention of anything I write and publish? Who cares anyway?   The bottom line is that for me, the practice of self-examination and self-revelation is highly pragmatic, functional, and transformational. And, it can be really fun! If I can share my experience perhaps it will support others to be curious about who is inside all of the doings of their lives. And maybe, just maybe, it will bring some fulfillment, joy and fun to their lives.

About 25 years ago, my friend Joan came to my home to do an energy clearing. She had a lot of experience in Feng Shui and other techniques for bringing harmony and balance to people and spaces. She offered to come do a clearing in my new abode and I took her up on it! Thanks Joan!   While Joan worked with dowsing rods to uncover and clear specific energies in my home, I was enchanted and mesmerized by what I witnessed. If you’ve ever seen or played with dowsing rods, or perhaps a pendulum, you know what I’m talking

I’ve been living in a RV travel trailer for almost 20 years. My reality hasn’t yet opened me up to living in a real home. I once got so far as to have the house design and permit completed. On the day the permit was in place, I came down with an excruciating headache that lasted for days. I took this to be a sign—too much stress!   If you visit me in my trailer, walking in the door, you are transported. The views themselves would transport you out of the perceptions and perhaps judgments that you are in an

One of the principles that separate transformational coaches from other coaches is that they know that their clients already know what they need to know. Huh? As transformational coaches, we trust, respect and honor our clients’ experience, wisdom and intuition. They truly know what they want; what’s in the way of having what they want; what needs to shift so that they can receive what they want; and what they need to practice to make it so. We, as transformational coaches just have to ask the right questions and listen, listen, listen for the wisdom that is inherent within each